“WELL, WHAT I REALLY WANT TO DO IS ____________,
BUT SINCE THAT’S NOT AN OPTION…”
Have you ever caught yourself saying something to that affect?
Whether it’s a career change or any kind of life change, so many people have a clear vision of what they want, but seem to quickly brush that vision off and end up settling for what they have in front of them or what is easily attainable — that’s usually the much safer option. Are you giving yourself permission to make a change?
In your ideal world, what does your life look like? What kind of work would you be doing?
What is stopping you from achieving that now?
Seriously, what is stopping you?
Here’s a hint: NOTHING IS STOPPING US FROM MOVING TOWARD OUR GOALS, VISIONS, LIVES WE DREAM OF…
…well, except for ourselves.
There’s this interesting concept about “learned permission-seeking.”
We’ve been conditioned by parents, teachers, and society to ask for permission to do things.
Now when it comes to change, as adults, we still wait for that permission to make a change.
We look for someone to give us permission or validate our choice to try a new hobby, go back to school, quit a steady job to start our own businesses, flip career paths, or create any type of change within our lives.
Permission stops so many people from moving forward.
Oftentimes, we find ourselves in these situations where we seem stuck because nobody has given us the green light to proceed with our actions — which is crazy, since these are our own lives we are talking about (!). Are you giving yourself permission to make a change?
But, there are ways to create that permission for yourself to be more, do more, and achieve more of your goals.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF WAITING FOR PERMISSION
STEP 1: QUESTION WHY YOU THINK YOU NEED TO GET PERMISSION TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO IN THE FIRST PLACE
Why do you feel like you need someone else to tell you that, ‘Yes, you CAN do this’?
Do you feel like someone needs to have accomplished what you want to do first? Why?
You can be a trailblazer. You don’t need permission to start down a new path to your own success.
Once you get down to the reason of why you need to get the ‘okay’ from someone else, you’ll be able to acknowledge the main reason you need permission to create a change and overcome that obstacle to move forward.
STEP 2: ROCKING CHAIR TEST
This is where you create some type of leverage for your current situation and what you’d like to accomplish. It usually works in the form of:
“WHEN I’M OLD AND GRAY, WHAT WILL I REGRET MORE?
GOING AFTER MY DREAMS, OR SETTLING FOR WHAT I ALREADY HAVE?”
What do you think is more beneficial for you? Finally making that career change, or staying in the same place as you are now?
When you are faced with these little decisions, it’s time to take a step back to treat the symptoms of what is paralyzing you to wait for permission.
“THE KEY AREA FOR GROWTH IS RECOGNIZING THAT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE CERTAIN. YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE THE PERFECT ANSWER. IT JUST HAS TO BE GOOD ENOUGH.” – MJ FITZPATRICK
HOW TO MOVE FORWARD TO CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE
Now that we’ve gotten down to the root of the issues of WHY you have been waiting to get permission to continue working towards your ideal world, let’s move onto how you can start and follow through with reaching the goals you want to achieve.
Most of the time people stop themselves from reaching their goals well before they even take a moment to give it a try. So many attainable goals have been missed because there was a lack of an attempt.
So, challenge yourself to make it happen for you.
Put yourself out there — although it is terrifying, realize it is absolutely normal to be scared to try something new.
Acknowledge all of your feelings of fear. What is it that you’re really scared of?
If you’re scared of the failure or rejection you may encounter from trying something new, acknowledge it.
We’re all truly fearful of failing at things that are important to us. But, you need to give yourself permission to feel that fear and GO FOR IT!
“IF YOU JUST FEEL THE FEAR AND THEN RUN AWAY, THEN YOU’RE NEVER GOING TO MOVE FORWARD.” – MJ FITZPATRICK
EXPERIMENT AND EXPLORE YOUR OPTIONS
Think about how easy it is to test out your options. Creating those micro-experiments for yourself is a ‘safe’ way to move forward on your goals.
There are so many ways to feel out your options before diving into the deep end.
The most important thing you NEED to do is TAKE ACTION and MOVE FORWARD.
The biggest thing that I had to learn was that I was the only one that was thinking that I needed to stay where I was. Everyone else around me wanted me to be happy. Everyone else was just looking for me to make the best decision that I could.
I was just walking around with these expectations that I had to be a certain way. So, I really had to give myself permission.
Most of the time, it’s the expectations that we’ve set for ourselves that keep us locked down on a specific way we think we should be living our lives.
We’re afraid to make changes (that we know deep inside our hearts that we need to change) because we are looking for certainty that our changes will be the ‘right’ ones.
If you’re in a career that you know you don’t belong in, or you’re burnt out and looking to make a greater impact with your work, don’t let the unknown stop you from moving forward and giving yourself permission to make a change.
Try out your options before you come to the conclusion that a career change isn’t for you or that the shift is something that you can’t handle.
Society creates a FALSE feeling of certainty. You’ll never be sure on the outcomes of anything, unless you actually take the actions to try and experience it for yourself.
And even then, you’ll learn something.
It either works for you or it isn’t your cup of tea.
If it doesn’t work out for you, the next thing you do is cross it off your list, and move on to the next thing.
And, if it just so happens to fit you perfectly, the rewards for stepping through that fear to try something new are so incredible, that it is worth it.
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