Now looking back at it. I never really asked myself the questions of whether I wanted to do this. It is just normal. Many of us do that.
That’s what Michal Balass had said when I asked her where her career started.
She went on to explain that she spent years getting her Doctorate and when the time came to get a job, she did it without thinking… because that’s what you do! It is normal.
Unfortunately, doing things the normal way without question put Michal in the same place many others are.
In a job that isn’t a great fit and doesn’t particularly line up with what you want out of life!
Michal tolerated it for years. (probably for much too long)
“The troubling thing about that is when you don’t fit the role, you don’t fit the job culture, you’d get burned out very easily and very quickly and that’s what happened. But I, you know, I’m an ambitious person and I held on and the whole time for a lot longer than I should have. And what the breaking point was is that I had my son two years ago and I didn’t want to go back to work.”
Michal knew that this job wasn’t the right one for her but honestly didn’t know what really would create the best situation for her or just what the real possibilities were like for her life and what they could be.
That is until she started working with Lisa her Career Coach
“One of the first questions she asked me to think about is what are the things that are really true of me. And when I started generating that list I sort of understood that there were a lot more sides to me than just this job and that this job is not what is supposed to identify me unless I wanted to. And that’s how the process started.”
That’s when the possibilities really opened up. When she wasn’t just identifying herself as an academic but instead focusing on what she really wanted (and who she wanted to be)
WHEN YOUR DIRECTION BECOMES “AND” INSTEAD OF “OR”
She started focusing on what we call “And thinking” (how you can have cake AND eat it… because nobody likes to stare at cake)
She found that she could have a career she wanted AND be a mother.
She could have flexibility AND a role that pays well.
This difference in focus led her down a completely different path than what she had known before.
Fast forward, months later, she had started a photography business AND got a new role the fit her and her family.
This is what the process is about: doing something that fits your life in that moment. And if it doesn’t fit, being flexible enough to think about that ‘I can always move on and I can always engineer my situation slowly to find something that fits better’ The biggest challenges are US standing in our own way.
Michal’s move wasn’t easy, but in talking with her now 2 things are very clear. She is a different person than she was a year ago at this time.
She no longer defines herself the same way, she has a different outlook and there is a determination that if a situation is no longer a great fit, she knows she has the ability to change it.
To hear her full story and how she leveraged coaching and Career Change Bootcamp resources listen to the episode or download the transcript.
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